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Mamas Tell All // Marriage After Baby

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

I'm so encouraged by the response to our first ever Mamas Tell All Linkup. It's important to us that this linkup serves as a way for moms to build a community of encouragement where we can all be open and talk about the real struggles and joys of mommyhood.

We're onto week two of the linkup and of course we want you to be a part of the fun! Make sure to follow the hosts and put the button in your post and on your sidebar! Then read some of the other posts and leave some comment love...you may learn a thing or two, and you'll definitely meet some fun new mamas!

This week we are discussing how to keep your marriage alive after children.

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Everyday Thoughts The So-Called Homemaker That Southern Mama
Brittany from Everyday Thoughts // Christine from So Called Homemaker // Ashley from That Southern Mama
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My marriage after having Kenzie has had its ups & downs. Not going to lie. Because like we all already know, we as humans are not perfect. Therefore there is no perfect marriage either.
Here are a few things I have learned over the course of 2 years of marriage with a child on my hip. & somethings I am just now figuring out & trying out as I go.

+ Baby is very important. But SPOUSE comes first no matter what. Some days I still find this hard to stick to, not that I love Kenzie more.. But she is my child that I grew inside me... I can be overly attached to her.


+ Make time for each other & go on dates. We have YET to go on a date since Kenzie was born. She will be 2 in November. Sad I know. & I am 100% sure we need that alone/special time together. After baby goes to bed is a good time to snuggle up & watch a movie.. or whatever.


+ ALWAYS be on the same team. With parenting & with everything. No reason to bump heads. Do not make your husband feel like you are working against him.


+ Pray. 24/7. Pray for each other, for your marriage, for your child, For anything & everything. Putting God first makes a happy loving marriage/family.


+ Hold hands. This is one that from time to time I realize we rarely do. We have been together almost 9 years, so it is understandable I guess. But after having a child to add to the equation, a simple holding of hands brings back an amazing feeling. A much needed feeling. 


+ Okay & one of the most important things.... Give up the sex mamas!  I know we get so wore out & are super tired all the time with keeping a home, cooking, tending to kids, being a wife. & possibly working outside the home. But sex in marriage is an amazing thing, it should not be looked over. It for sure will remind your husband he is still number one to you!




Next week the topic is: Kids and Eating - How to Get Around a Picky Eater
& be sure to check out last weeks topic also! The Perfect Mama

24 comments:

  1. All of these are so true. You need to get your butt on a date, missy! DO IT! :)

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  2. So true! And YES, you need to go out on a date ASAP! That's a very long time without a date. My husband and I don't get them too often but when we do it is amazing! Even if it's only for a few hours

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  3. TIME is so important! You're so right... if there's no time for each other, then we need to make time!

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  4. As Billy says..our children will grow up and move out. If we put our spouse in the #1 spot ( on earth) the correct balance will be in our home. Plus we are teaching our children that marriage is not disposable. It took me years to get it after all you kids are my life! Our spouses are our best friends. And yes we still hold hands and I still think Billy is the best!!!

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  5. We will Friday night & all date saturday for our anniversary! So I am excited!

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  6. We will have some date time this weekend, I am excited! <3

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  7. YES! <3 Time with husband is super important. Dont want him feeling unloved!

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  8. The more I work on putting keith first the more I feel things are going amazingly! <3 You are correct about that!

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  9. Go on a date!! You need it! Especially before baby comes. I'm glad you make time for each other after Kenzie goes to sleep, that's a great idea!

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  10. I think you're so right with the idea of being on the same team. We're in this together, on purpose, so let's act like it!

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  11. :) Everything rooms more smoothly when working together instead of against each other!

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  12. Thanks will def be doing that! :)

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  13. Amazing advice! The reminder to hold hands is so genuine and authentic to a relationship. Just the simple act can reinforce so many unsaid feelings. Great Post Mama!

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  14. Thanks mama! <3 It is amazing what a little hand holding can do!

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  15. Good stuff here girl! I liked what you said about being on the same team when it comes to parenting/marriage. Even if we disagree, there is always common ground in any argument! We are all just figuring it out anyway, nobody has all the answers!

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  16. Thanks girl, we all know we will have our disagreements but in the end, we have have to be on the same page.

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  17. Awesome post girl! I love the concept of this blog hop. I've made a note to take part in next weeks blog hop.
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  18. Awesome cant wait for you to join in, thanks!

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  19. Yayyy!! It's going to feel really weird to not have the little one around and you will probably be thinking of them all night but at least you will have alone time. I thought it was really hard to relax the first few times going out because she was all I thought about. haha!!

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  20. Yeah I hate being away from her, it sucked when I was working all the time & she stayed with a babysitter. Now I am home all the time so I am used to her being around 24/7. But I know me & the hubs need this!

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  21. I love the point about being on the same team...so important! Great post!

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  22. We only had just over 9 months without child(ren) and I was pregnant for most of those. In some ways I think this has helped us be intentional about our relationship as man and wife… Thank you for your tips: we always need to keep working on this!

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  23. Yes you are right, even if we think our marriage is going amazingly we should still work hard at it!

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