Mama's Blessed : After Birth - REALITY

After Birth - REALITY

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

I am enjoying talking real talk on my blog. People like to leave info out or sugar coat things when it comes to coming home after baby. So let's talk the reality of it shall we!?



+ Hormones are still going crazy. You will be happy, then sad, then angry all in about 5 minutes.
I honestly feel like a crazy lady some days.


+ Crying. Oh God the crying. That did not end after popping out baby. It continues, but not for long. So let it out mama. & maybe do what my toddler does, watch yourself in the mirror while crying. Ha.

+ Bleeding. During your pregnancy you get to enjoy NO PERIODS [  though it is replaced with other gross things ] & then it is made up for after birth. Seems like it is never ending. It could last weeks or even months.

+ This one is super touchy... Your BODY. Oh yeah, that thing you hate to even look at in the mirror. I am not ashamed of my stretch marks one bit. But that belly flab, I hate it. I need to work out & eat better. But food is to yummy for all that!

+ If you are breast feeding then your boobies are acting crazy all the time. Leaking. A lot. Hurting. I am not even going to talk about the nipples. Your welcome. I am always checking while in public if I am leaking through my shirt. Guess it is a fear of mine.

+ No sex for at least 6 weeks. Yeah that is right. But if you were like me, you are okay with that most days. You do not feel sexy nor even feel yourself really. Your hands are full getting used to baby that sex may not even cross your mind.

+ Pains. Coming home after baby is born you have enough to worry with. But pains and contractions are thrown in there anyway. If you have more than one child then the pains are worse. Or at least it was for me. I was okay the first few days, but then I started getting HORRIBLE pains in my back and stomach. I could not even turn from side to side with out it hurting. It only lasting like that for a few days though.

+ Pregnancy brain just turned into mama brain. I do not know which is worse. Being super forgetful is all apart of it. I have taken a glass of tea to my sleeping toddler when my husband was the one that asked for it. I have had convos with the hubs and then afterwards wonder if I really did have the convo or imagine it. A to-do list is your friend mamas!

+ If your breastfeeding you may be eating all the time. When I nursed my 1st daughter & now my 2nd daughter I continually craved chocolate & cookies. That is one reason I have not dropped as much baby weight as I wanted. That and that I have no self control around chocolate and cookies! 

+ Team NO SLEEP all the way! Newborns eat pretty much every two hours, it will get better as the weeks go by though. My first go round we were terrified to sleep when my daughter slept. So we took turns sleeping.. NOT A GOOD IDEA. This go round I have embraced the no sleep thing. Though I seem to be getting at least 4-6 hours straight at night now. 

+ Getting dressed or taking a shower is something you have to plan ahead for. Oh & the same goes with cleaning. Good luck!

Am I leaving anything out?! Probably! Let me know! 

57 comments:

  1. OH my gosh! I just wanted to stand up and shout AMEN to this post. Yes, everything you've said. :D

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  2. Thanks for keeping it real! So not looking forward to going through all of this again this summer... I did a post-partum post too that talked about a few other fun things I went through, like post-pregnancy hair shedding, and I even lost a tooth (an old wives tale that came true for me!): http://thejonijourney.blogspot.com/2014/06/1-year-postpartum-weight-loss-recovery.html

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  3. hahaha! So true! The bleeding, no time for showers, the crying, the mama brain! HA!!

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  4. Good to know. My first is due in 2 months, so I always appreciate some real, straight forward info.

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  5. Wow! Thanks for sharing the real stuff, not just the sunshiney sutff!

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  6. Mama brain is such a real thing! And the crying. Oh the crying. It wasn't as bad with my second than with my first. I was a WRECK! I almost think recovery with my first son took as long as I was pregnant with him!

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  7. I appreciate this dose of terrifying reality. Perhaps this is why I'm nearly 30 and still not ready for babies?!

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  8. I love your honest approach and real talk. Every single one of those things is true. No need to sugar coat reality.

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  9. I'm a recent mom to a furbaby newborn so I feel the pain of having to wake up every two hours to feed her and knowing little to no sleep. It's more than just a little rough. I can't imagine an actual child, which is why I'm pushing it back for the time being. I love your honesty about everything though! Your insight and sharing makes it actually real and not a all some fairy tale we are used to hearing.

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  10. Having my 2nd in a few weeks and am not looking forward to all of this again haha! At least I know that it's all worth it and that "this too shall pass" which has been my motto since my 1st was born lol!

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  11. Everything is true!! My bleeding wasn't terribly bad, maybe I've already forgotten it. I just remember telling my dad and husband to stay the heck away from the guest bathroom because it "looks like a war zone in there".The hemorrhoids, good night. I pushed for 5 hours there was no sitting without me close to tears for months. Also I had the shakes pretty bad from all the meds wearing off and TERRIBLE swelling in my feel from all the fluids.

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  12. All the reasons I'm not ready for another one yet :)

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  13. EVERYTHING is spot on but going to the bathroom and needed an armful worth of items, refrigerated tucks pads, spray bottle and dermoplast! Life savers!

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  14. Good to know! We are expecting our first child in a couple months, so I am gathering all this type of information! :)

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  15. Oh man, how easily we forget all of this...it's only been 2 years and I've nearly forgotten it all....it will be back in a few weeks though! Ugh! The bleeding was awful. The wishing my body would go back to 'normal' was awful. I've heard the cramps are worse with each subsequent pregnancy...not looking forward to that!!

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  16. My baby is 14, but a lot of these memories came flooding back. Luckily, it does pass and they are so worth it! Hang in there, mama!

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  17. I'm so glad you touched on things that nobody likes to focus on.. the joy and times. ;]

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  18. I have 3 small children, my youngest being 2 years old. I remember it all like yesterday! During pregnancy there are many discussions about what to expect while pregnant, but not many people talk about the AFTER! Yes to EVERYTHING you just said! I felt completely psycho for a bit. I would cry for NO reason and with NO warning. It was the oddest thing!

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  19. I completely agree with all of the above. The second time around I was definitely a little better at managing some things but its definitely tough to get back to feeling like yourself after having a baby, most people hide that. Thanks for the honesty! Makes me glad I'm not the only one who's life turned upside down after baby!

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  20. I haven't had kids yet but I can imagine how exhausted your body feels after everything.

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  21. We'll honey this is complete honesty! I've been having baby fever for a month or so and I've read so many post where people make it all peaches and cream. I love the honesty!!


    Krystal
    www.CreativelyDysfunctional.blogspot.com


    PS. I've linked up with all you links!

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  22. I agree with everything from above! Especially the second time around....oh my! My youngest is 4, but I still very much remember those days. And the body image feelings are still fresh for me. Hang in there, mama, it gets a little easier each day!

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  23. It's been 20 years or me. I don't think I could go through all that again.

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  24. LOL I love the part of no periods during pregnancy, but it's replaced with other gross things...true dat. And the crying, seriously why does no one mention that?! I was all creepy and super emotional, crying out of nowhere.

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  25. Ha! Thanks.. Mamas to be need to know these things. Some mamas like to leave out important info just because it is gross or whatever!

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  26. Thanks girl, I just want to be honest... I wish someone would have told me some things ahead of time. You have to take the good & bad together!

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  27. Checking out your post now! Hair shedding... DANG i forgot to post that one! It was horrible with my first! Wondering how it will be this 2nd time around.

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  28. YW! <3 Mamas to be need to know there are gross sucky things too!

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  29. Ha! No girl, it is worth it. We are women, we can deal with anything!

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  30. lol. told my hubs I want 3+ years between the next. I want to enjoy normal-ness!

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  31. YES!!! <3 No wants to talk about them, but when the time comes they wish someone would have told them

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  32. Ha! Some days I still feel like a psycho! :P Yeah, no one even told me that the after pains/contractions while still in the hospital would be worse than actual labor contractions. I guess they get worse the more babies you have!

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  33. AMEN! You sure are right about that! Yeah I told my hubs to give me 3+ years this next time if we have another. I want to enjoy my body being SOMEWHAT normal! lol.

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  34. It is all worth it. Enjoy all the good. Bc the bads are not that bad! & congrats!

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  35. Yes, after having my 2nd one it was way worse. Pains and all. But I knew it was coming so I was able to deal with it well.

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  36. Nope, just real talk. :P You got to take good & bad!

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  37. Oh gosh yes! So much crap to deal with every time you go to the bathroom!

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  38. Oh no girl! :( I dont think i had any hemorrhoids. If I did they were not painful. 5 hours of pushing!? Yikes!!! Mine was only 14 minutes, but it was my 2nd!! WAR ZONE! Ha, yeah girl.. totally. I hated having company over. :P

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  39. It is rough aint it!? :P But we do it anyway for those cute little babies! :P

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  40. Good to be aware of what is going to happen! But it is all worth it, & all bearable. Congrats!

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  41. Furbabies are tough to in the beginning! I have been there a few times too! My life after giving birth has not been perfect and pretty. So why pretend? All mamas go through it!

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  42. Ha, I feel like the crying and craziness was worse this time. But i think that was because I have a super active toddler, and bringing a newborn home, & dealing with all the junk that mamas have to deal with when it comes to their bodies! I just now feel like I am getting back to normal! :P

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  43. Haha, yeah no one likes to talk about it, but we all deal with it. :P I was the same way with both. My first go round my hub said " it that aint your hormones then I think you might be crazy!" Funny now, but I wanted to choke him at the time! :P

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  44. HA! I think I could do it one more time. But maybe in about 3+ years.

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  45. YW, figured someone out there might want to know the not so good side! :P

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  46. Thanks so much, it is getting easier as the days go by! <3 The babies are worth it though.

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  47. Thanks! <3 Yeah I would want to know the truth! Not just the good stuff. I like to prepare myself for things!

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  48. the 2nd was rough all together. But now as time has gone by I am enjoying every minute of it!

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  49. Yes it is a crazy feeling for sure. :P

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  50. Yes girl you are about to experience it soon if you havent had the baby yet. The 2nd time cramps after giving birth were horrible. I had to take pain med while at hospital to help. I didnt take anything with my first!

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  51. Yeah, the hair shedding was prob the most depressing thing for me. I had no idea and I seriously thought I'd wind up bald. Then the hair grows back and you wind up with tons of baby hairs sticking straight up. Lots and lots of hats in those days ;)

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  52. I'm praying the next one is super easy, he was also 2 weeks overdue so yea.. he's a mama's boy hahaha.

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  53. Hmm, the one thing that I might add to the list is the disappointment that will come if you don't lose weight quickly while breastfeeding. I didn't at all with my first, did with my second but it was because of a thyroid condition we didn't know about. I was so disappointed and depressed really that the weight didn't fall off with my first baby. I'm curious to see what will happen next time.

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